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Dearest sweet Lolo~ God bless you. I can feel you r heart from here and know you are sharing your honest feelings and I am so thankful for this place that you feel you can share, vent and reach out both giving and recieving support to and from others. You are special and very important. I know you don't know me from Eve, just just know I have been where you are, broke, feeling lowwishing things could be different,feeling trapped in circumstances that were /are beyond your control in many ways.
You are beautiful, your daughter loves you and though she may tire of your "wonderful motherly (right) advice from time to time...she loves you. I see more of the bottoms of my teen son's eyes than I ever have before form him rolling them at me half the time...(and I lovingly want to poke him in his little eye and see if it's so easy for him to roll them at me!)
Seriously though. I think the very fact that most of us are hear, is that we are each dealing with things, financial, health related, serious short term or long term crisis stuff that the average Joe is just not dealing with. ( Though now with more and more people loosing their jobs, this is seeming to turn into the norm.) I was saying that just to remind you that you are never alone here, you are valued and the kindness you offer to total strangers, or frineds from this site and other's you may be on are blessed because you were there.
I just want to say a quick prayer for you if that's ok.
Father, please bless LoLo today, lift her spirits from deep inside like only You can. Bless her finances, and continue to open doors for her, some that she thought were shut even...just start moving more in her life that she would see this is because the Lord herad our prayers, seen the sadness and need in her life. MAy she feel and see the changes taking place and bless Your name. In Jesus name, Amen.
Hugs to you honey...happy birthday indeed!
It's my birthday too! I am 38 today xoxoxox so I do know that feeling.
There's an organization that comes to towns/cities across the US that will actually have dentist donate their time/severices (along with many other businesses and orgs in your local area.)for free.. I will try to find the name.
It's not project blessing, but it's similar.
We just had one here a few months ago. YOu might be able to ask you chamber of comernce what it's called or if they know if your area partisipates in it.
Hi, Nathan was sick again with a bad staph infection, he's finally getting over it and also had a few "new" things happen with him tht was also stressful. But thankfully the antibiotic's seeming to help so much.He's now starting to seem like he might be getting a GI issue again...so we're praying it won't be. We're supposed to be flying him soon to Our CHildren's House at Baylor (Dallas, TX)for a feeding evaluation. So just pray we can get through the next few weeks with out things getting worse.
God bless you guys. I think of you all often and am praying for you, even if I don't know all your names. I know the Lord does...
God bless you guys. Please check out Nathan's www.caringbridge.org/visit/nathancontreras for his updates. Please sign the guest book and say hi. Please share his main website and info about his book so that we can finally get some of his books moving please. We receive less than 3.00 per book that's sold. If I could get the word out more it would certianly help.We do more at his benefit's etc. but it's hard to have the $ upfront for us to order them so I have them on hand, and can put them in stores. If there's possibly a company or place that might be willing to sponsor it so we were able to order more, it would be a blessing. If anyone has any suggestions, please let me know.
Also resources for personal grants for individuals to help pay for medical bills/etc and feeding therapy. (same old stuff as always!) PLease know how much I appreicate your help and prayers.~Les
Praise God!!! I am SO thankful your son is alright.
Father, Thank you for your angel's who were gaurding over this precious woman's son today. PLease bless then, and may this whole experience draw them even closer to your heart and may it all bring glory to you and even work in the one's heart who shot her son Lord. That they'd see the wrong and hurt that can be cuased by a rash and desperate decision....and tun their life around and may your hand be on this whole situation....and may the judge or law enforcement people who are having to deal with this sitation and hospital staff all be touched through your Holy Spirit of the miracle that happened today through this whole thing.
In Jesus name. Amen.
I am thankful he's going to be ok....thanks for letting us know.
It depends on your area. We are in Tucson AZ and I went there and they said they were not able to help us this time because now I was receiving child support and before when they helped us 1 and half yrs ago I wasn't gettting any. So for us it ened up not working out this time.(Disapointing) It's only because we were over their limit for even financial hardship and everything. (Which I knew we were over most program levels, part of whay it's so hard for us to find help.) Usually though the Salvation Army will help you with your utility bill especaily with at least the disconnect amount that is due immedately, sometimes, depending on their funding, they can do the full amount. It just depends on their resources at that time.
Did you call them to find out? Praying you can find some help.
Hi, I am going to morrow to the Salvation Army for an apt to get the same type of help. If you call and ask for an apointment, they may have an specific time for you to call in...and ask for familiy services they should be able to help you with it. There's paper work for you to bring in, but it's worth it. They are a real blessing. If you don't hav eone, there should stil be other community resources, and churches that can help.
Let us know how it goes and what you have already tried.
God bless you.
HI, I am very sorry for your loss and for the struggles you ahve had. I have had 3 miscariages, the lost recent being last year so I do understand your pain...but I am also a mom so I do get to have that joy of two boys.
I wanted to tell you something, and I know you might think I am not understanding how deeply you want this, but I do. My own sister, Jill has been married for 20 yrs to her husband Michael and she hhas never even been pregnant. She has cried constantly and my heart has been so broken for her...she always feels as though she's not a 'whole woman' and so many things.
I am sure you feel similar things...I wanted to just suggest something, that I am more than sure you have considered~but it would still be true. have you considered being a foster mom to babies in crisis? I know it can't supsitute having your own child, but possibly while you are working on pulling your finances together~ you cold be offering your care and tenderness to a little baby who desperately needs love and support and security. You would also be receiving a small income for doing that service, but every little bit might help in getting you closer to your dream.
God bless you. God's pans for you havent changed, and He is still using you and can use you...just continue to be true to your self and activly continue to bring out your motherly intentions. Even if a child isn't your own child...you can still make a dramatic impact on a life...I was a foster child and I know it's true.
Hi. I am sorry you are feeling so bad. I know that it can be hard when you have a lot you are trying to deal with and if you get depressed. There should be some sort of community referal service in your area that can refer you to a crisis center for some criss counseling and from their could help you if you needed to go into a hospital or clinic and get an evaluation for possible medicaltion.
Have you been on medication before for this type of thing? Do you have any state assisitance? You should also be able to call your local hospital and see if they can refer you to the closest mental health facility. God bless you. If you are also wanting someone to talk or pray for you, you can call crisis lines, prayer lines as well.
Let me know how things go. You're not alone and I am glad you are here.
First off thank you for sharing your story and I am SO sorry that you are having ot go through so much. I know how hard it is to get a really harsh diagnosis, and please just know truely that regardless of what a doctor tells you that they are not God...and He can turn any situation around. I am sorry about your house. Have you spoken with the martgate company about your situation and have you tried to do a hardship program with them? Also, how much is your house payment? Most places have a situation where you can pay only half (or however much you have) for a payment and put the rest towards either the end of your loan, or brake up the payment's over 6 months and stick a little extra on to each months payment. We did that last year, it was hard, (really hard)but it kept us from loosing our home.
Also, since it's thankfully the first of the month, through your community resources, Salvation Army, St. Francis of Cabrini (or catholic social services type thing) you can call and bring in your financial info, and ask for familiy sevices and I know lots of places can pay a rent payment, or partial house payment or utility.
Also, if you are in "crisis" which it sounds as though of corse you are, then sometimes you can get a social worker to call on your behalf (you have to give written permission faxed to a supervisor usually )but they can 'petition' for mercy on your behalf to the company and usually they will try to work something out with you.
Let me know your area, and I will see what I can come up with. Nathan's not feeling well today so I will be home all day and can help you with research.
God bless you. Don't give up.
I am sorry, I didn't see a post you might have made before that one. Are you trying to find a new place to live? Depending on where you are, www.sublet.com is a great place and you can usually find pretty good deals on there, because you can take over someone else's lease and usally(not always)forfit the down payment/move-in deposits.
What are you trying to find? There are also property managment places, that sometimes can have smaller complexes, duplexes and they can get better prices on rent. Also referal places offer you a discount and can find your apartment for you and they make their commision off finding a aprtment/rental for you and you use their name when you fill out you information on the ID card. Tell me what your looking for and I can try to help some.
Nathan was in the ER last night and not feeling well, plus scratched his cornia right before I took him in for the vomiting/horrible coughing fits etc. I tried to post about this already, but I guess I wrote to much.Is there a letter limit on the posts? Hugs to you all. Please say a littel prayer for him today.
Hugs to you all. www.contrerashome.us
Hi, I would try the Salvation Army, Catholic Social Services, Lutheren Services, community resources and referral, crisis shelter's in your area that would have listings of foundations, ministries or commuinity resources that might help in your situaiton. Since it is so close to the end of the month, I know it might be harder to get immediate help, it might be easier after the 1st. (I know that's not much help) but just call and see what you can come up with. I am so thankful that you are out of that abusive situation. I know it can be incredibly difficult, but it will always be the stronger and better choice for you and your kids.
I know you won't want to loose the place you are living in, but if God forbid it does happen, because of your circumstances surrounding your financial troubles, and recent abusive situation, but might qualify for some better programs. I know what I was in the spot you are in, only it was about 11 yrs ago when I got a divorce. We eneded up living in a halfway house/DV Shelter that had "transitional housing". It was sad to go there, but Thoams was 3, and I just knew thet when it came to my son I couldn't have pride. So I left everything I had, and went there with him and my "rent" was only 145 a month and it was SUCH A BLESSING. (I couldn't get any assistance living there either form the state because I had 'court ordered support' and assets still in my name (though he got them in the house in the divorce, since my name was on the loan, it was still considered "mine" and screwed with my credit to this present day because he ended up abandoning in with his second wife...long story.)
Anyway, is he paying any child support? Do you have a child support enforcement office through your supperior court? Are they his kids? If so, regardless of if he can see them or not, he is supposed to be paying.
Let me know your thoughts.
I am sorry for your trouble and hope you will find good advice, help and friends here.
God bless you.
Ok, I will try it again. Maybe it didn't let me do it befor ebecause it was to long? Nathan's update: Our trip to Nashville was a blessing. sad, but a blessing and we left there feeling a lot of hope for him. They wanted us to try and start treating him as though he has celeacs disease (gleuton free, no cows milk and instead goat's milk, no soy and no sugar, no long grains unless brown rice for now) they did an x-ray with a DC Choice machine (digital computer type program x-ray with virtually no radiation) pretty cool, but it showed a TON of air in his body. Iintestines/stomach and even behind his ribcage. So that was sad. Everyone there including the other two doctors and nurses/staff hadn't seen anything like that ever they said. We ahdn't on any of his other x-ray's accept once at 4 months old when he had bad gastointoritis., but still even then, it was only about half that amount.
They gave us a game plan and some suplements and are going to talk with his GI doctors & CF Team this coming week. We are waiting for his blood tests also, then we will know more.
We did get his other blood results form the GI at Phoenix Children's, and there were 14 things off on them. Wither too high or low. Which was the worst blood test he'd had for a couple years.
I will write more soon about our finances, which of corse are up a creek still. But now only worse, because something we were counting on feel through. Tell you in a few minutes. Need a brake. God bless you.
Hi, I am so sorry about your house situaiton! I know this might seem simple, but have to tried speaking with them and filing a hardship letter and talked with someone to see if you can apply for a hardship program that they'd have already set up?
We did this and our mortgage still sent up (to 1600!!) but it helped almost 400 more they were going to do, and we would have lost our home for sure. We are in the same spot today, of not having all our house payment, and it's automatically going through tomorrow. We've talked with the company and the bank. It's been stressful. I know that the Salvation Army can help with a house payment or utility, and if they are out of fund's because it's the ned of the month, wait until the begining of next month an dsee if you can get the help then, put your name on as many lists as possible. Also , you might check with some churches in your area and ask if there's a benevalive fund somehow. Also, can you tell me where you live(city/ste) I can try ot see waht crisis help is available there.
Hi, I am sorry you are going through a rough spot, and i know how that feels and it can be so frusterating. I was going to ask if you had checke dwith your salvation army there locally because they can help with a lot of things, and also there should be some sort of catholic or lutheran social services that might be able tohelp as well.
If you have a crisis pregnancy center in your area, they can help you with children's supplies and diapers etc. Also if you call the hospital and ask for someone in the social services office they can direct you to that.
You can also try some of the churches, and see if there's a benevilanece fund that might be able to help you. I think you might run in to trouble though about your furniture, because it might be considered an 'extra expence" like a cell phone or credit card bill. (which I know those can be necesities, but if you are asking for asissitance they usually aren't in that category) I am not saying it as a judgement on you We have stuff like that ourselves, that make some of the things we are fighting to get done or pay harder for us to get some brakes now. Like a credit ard bill, etc. The people offering the help won't see what you were buying with it, for us for a long time it was perscriptions, but they will just see" oh you have this so you aren't destitue" (they won't know you are over your limit and can't use it any more etc.)
I hope that you are able to find some good help here, and we will definately be praying for you and your precious kids.
You might even check with a day care, and see if you can get a job in one and they could give you a reduced rate until the asssistance clicks in to help with the costs.
I had to do that a few times with my oldest son a long time ago. Sometimes it helps. You pay checks won't be very much, but it's better than nothing, and it's a blessing to be so close to your kids too.
God bless you,